I’ve always had a bit of a love-hate relationship with my name. Eleanor. It’s a mature name for a young girl, and in my case it was never abbreviated to Ellie, Nellie, Nora, or any other youthful sounding permutation. During a brief period in elementary school, I asked my family and friends to call me Grace (irony noted here, thank you), and when that failed I turned to my middle name, Clare. Never, however, has my name proven as problematic as it has since I moved to Uganda.
First off, Ugandans have simply never heard of the name Eleanor. Though most Ugandans actually have “western” names—there are an abundance of Richards, Williams, Johns, Pauls, Saras, Rebeccas, Cathys, etc.—Eleanor is nowhere to be found. Repeating my name to Ugandans multiple times is of little help and references to Acquitaines or Roosevelts draw blank stares. Elena is more commonly recognized, so some of my Ugandan colleagues and friends call me Elena. That’s the best case scenario.
Now, this already sub-par situation is complicated by the fact that Ugandans refer to people by their surname, followed by their first name. So, for example, the name would be Elston Elizabeth or Sullivan Daniel. Spears Brittany, Friedman Thomas, Brooks David. Get it? Excellent. Apply this situation to my name—Eleanor Joseph—and it’s obvious: this person is named Joseph! Then they look at me. But in Uganda, they tell me, Joseph is a man’s name. Perhaps Josephine?
To recap, since my arrival in Uganda, I’ve been called Elena (and many similar sounding mumbles), Joseph, and Josephine by those who even venture an attempt at referring to me by name. However, my favorite came the other day. After a thirty minute conversation with a very friendly technician in one of the Ministry’s labs, I was making my way to the door. I’d given this man my card, so he’d seen my name written, in addition to hearing me pronounce it when I initially introduced myself. As I drew the door closed behind me, I heard him say “Bye, bye, Clinton.” I guess that works too...